Here are some of my more recent posts

5 May 2016

Reflections from home

I have missed writing immensely. The reason I took a writing hiatus is that I am with my son in Colombia for an extended and a […]
26 May 2015

About becoming a mom

When I was 17, I wanted to become a mom at age 25. When I was 25, I was still pursuing an education and working towards a career. When […]
27 April 2015


Phase 4 consisted of taking a drug called Tamoxifen for 5 years. This medication is the usual anti-estrogen therapy for hormone receptor-positive breast cancer in pre-menopausal […]
14 April 2015

About genetic testing

During one of my check-ups, a genetic counselor came to talk to me about genetic testing. Young women with breast cancer have an increased risk of […]
8 April 2015


Phase 3 was radiation therapy or radiotherapy, often abbreviated RT, RTx, or XRT. In preparation for this phase, I had to get a picture taken so […]
31 March 2015

A boy named Bear

A few months after my miscarriage my ex and I moved from the city to a suburb of Boston. We wanted more space and we planned […]
23 March 2015

Helping Ourselves, Helping Others

I kept thinking about ways to help other young women recently diagnosed with breast cancer so I dug up this snail mail letter from an oncologist […]
17 March 2015

My bag of tricks

During Phase 2 I felt a little bit more tired and fatigued. I felt that chemotherapy was taking a toll on my body. I started to […]
11 March 2015

A support system

I am lucky to have survived.  Part of that wasn’t really luck at all. It was the support I had around – not only from D […]
6 March 2015


I want to preface this post by saying that this is my version of things, my perspective. I understand and respect that my ex-husband would have […]
17 February 2015

Bad (no) hair day

For the majority of women, the most dreaded part of going through chemotherapy is losing their hair.  It is pretty easy to understand why.  Hair is […]
12 February 2015


I can say with all certainty that 2006 was not my year. I had a miscarriage in March and in September I found out about my […]
21 August 2018

A Worthy Mentor

Last week I attended a talk about leadership at my son’s school.  The speaker explained leadership by showing us first what it isn’t supposed to be. […]
27 August 2018

A Lovely Prey

In one of my latest posts, I talked about psychopathy – a topic that has interested me very much in the last three years – and […]
15 September 2018

An Interest-Based Relationship Theory

This is a co-written post with my good friend Lauren. Lauren: I always thought that being self-sufficient was an asset in a romantic relationship—as well as […]
20 October 2018

An ill-intentioned text

I posted a picture the other day on my new Instagram page, asking my friends for ideas about interesting topics to explore and write about on […]
8 November 2018

A Stress-Free Pursuit

My good friend Asis – and one of my most loyal male readers – sent me a psychology- themed video the other day. The reason why […]
17 November 2018

A Flashing “Green” Light

We are used to thinking that romantic relationships should follow a traditional, straightforward approach: Two people meet, they form a relationship and they either decide to […]
25 November 2018

A Bona Fide Friendship

In the old days, men used to be out working and most women stayed at home, and the only way they could get together was with […]
14 January 2019


Mi blog “Borrongonga” nació en Boston, Estados Unidos después de una conversación casual con una amiga un día cualquiera. Es un blog que relata mi experiencia […]
13 February 2019

Un desfile de galanes

El otro día un amigo me estaba comentando que, en su opinión, debe ser difícil conocer hombres con los que quiera salir – a mi edad, […]